Don’t trust a man that acts like he has done this before and knows exactly what to do and say, because the chances are he’s has said those sweet nothings to another girl, and he has broken their hearts too. To him your just girl #5… or #50, and the next girl is just girl #6 or #51
— My Ona. I miss her. I should of taken her advice lol (via konroy)
Ultimatums are like grenades, they very often blow up in your face
Don’t force a guy to choose between you and something else because he will almost, always, pick the wrong option.
Why? Because he knows you damn near love him enough to give him a second chance, and even if he picks his boys, sports, clubbing, or even the other girl, you’ll still be around and you’ll still be willing to pick up the pieces and try again when he decides he has had enough and its time to come back.
You can’t have sex with a guy for a long period of time without rules or regulations; otherwise you will become just nothing more than friends with benefits. Some girls might not mind this, some guys might enjoy this, this might be the goal in mind; but those of you thinking of a different end-game might want to step up to the plate. Many times, girls will be with a guy without attachment under the guise of ‘just having fun’. What needs to be noted though is that guys view sex in a completely different manner. A guy can ‘just have fun’ with a girl for a long time without building emotional attachments. Girls, on the other hand, aren’t genetically wired to pull this off in such an impassive manner. Once you and a guy have engaged in this activity without rules or boundaries then you can pretty much be assured that this is where your relationship will be entrenched. It is very difficult for a guy to switch his view on a girl from just a fling to something more tangible. Once the two of you perpetrate the cycle for a long period of time that is where it will stay.
Moral: if you find a guy interesting or appealing and you see yourself with him, bring that to the fore-front. Even though it started off as a fling but you’re slowly finding yourself liking this guy – let him know; the sooner the better. It’s important to know where the two of you stand as soon as you recognize that what you have could potentially head somewhere. If you don’t, all that will be left to you is heartache. You do not want to be the one left standing in the rain when he decides that he wants more than just sex and he can’t find that with you.
You are in a relationship, or so you think, and the two of you have been ‘talking’ for some time. You think you’re dating him and, for the most part, you’re pretty sure he is dating you back. BUT all your dates are composed of time spent on the couch and time spent in the bedroom at your house or his.
What’s wrong with this picture?
Insight: the girl a guy keeps solely in his apartment or her apartment, generally indoors, if it is a girl he doesn’t want people to know he is associated with. Most times this is because he is busy chopping down another tree on the side, or maybe two; or because he doesn’t want the general population of females to know that he is tied down.
This doesn’t always take away from what the two of you might have. He might really like you, as much as you like him, but he’s not really to make it as official as sharing that with the world by spending a night on the town. This is the same thing as placing that awkward two feet gap between the two of you when you do, by chance, take an excursion outdoors. The goal here is to keep you close enough, all the while giving other potentials the impression that the two of you might just be friends.
The extreme: some guys act in this manner for a simpler reason – you’re a jump-off. There is nothing to the relationship except sex and it makes no sense taking you places because he isn’t interested in you in that manner. Therefore, the extent of your relationship becomes the couch and the bedroom.
The Upside: some guys genuinely do simply enjoy staying indoors. These are the low-maintenance; non busy-body types who don’t need a lot of glitz and glam to have fun. You can tell if yours fits these criteria by measuring the awkward space between the two of you if you ever make it outdoors, or if he holds your hand
Jump-off = a casual sexual partner or girlfriend and/or a woman of dubious sexual practices
Seriously, it’s not. I guess it makes sense though: you’re at a party, it’s your birthday, or your friend’s birthday, or a random person at the clubs birthday, and you get wasted. Throughout the course of your intoxication you make out random guys, climb the bar and give everyone within eye shot a clear view of your satin undies [if any], get in a fight with the bar-tender when she asks you to get down, get in a fight with the bouncer when he forces you down, make out with the bouncer, make out with your girlfriends, manage to find the one guy you won’t mess with in daylight and follow him home and then engage in awkward sex, all the while justifying your actions because you were drunk.
It might seem like a lot of fun, but it’s not cute and no girl should ever be ‘that girl’. I’m not saying you should worry about what other people think about you but, you should
Waking up one morning and deciding to go on the internet and post a video of you and your girl shaking your asses to Souljah Boy, Gucci Mane or [insert name of insignificant artist] in NOT COOL. I mean seriously, people do go on youtube, people will see these things – but that was your intention right? What makes it even worse is that some weirdo is most likely getting his/her rocks off to your video – but that was your intention right? If you must act a fool on the internet, do yourself future a favor and follow these simple guidelines
1. Create a fake account
2. Hide your face
3. Do not post your real name
4. Don’t tag your friends
Once you have managed to take care of these minor details then you can recommence your activities and, while in the process, pick a pseudonym for your future career as an “actress” or a “dancer” … ahem, porn star/stripper.
And please don’t beg people to comment on your craziness and say which one is better
For more foolishness: type in any combination of the words booty, donk, shake, clap on YOUTUBE.COM [at your own risk of course]
Never tell a guy your body count if your number of partners exceeds TEN. A guy’s reaction is almost always the same when a girl tells him she has been with more people than he has fingers (or toes). If the conversation comes up, play coy – but not too evasive, otherwise he’ll catch on. If you must be honest, make sure it is at a time when the two of you are strong enough, make sure it is at a moment in the relationship where he’ll understand.
1. Double standards DO exist, regardless of whether they are right or wrong.
2. It’s hard to find a man who will easily look past the twenty or so guys that came before him
Don’t brag about the number of guys you’ve been with to – a guy, undoubtedly it will make you look like a whore, - a girl, undoubtedly it will make you look like a whore. Neither might seem fazed by it to your face but, behind your back, it will DEFINETLY be a different story.
All you ladies approaching unfathomable numbers heed my one advice – recycle.
(this goes for guys too… I guess… sometimes…)
What is your first impression when a girl [or guy] tells you how many partners they have been with and the number exceeds what you had in mind?
I don’t understand why you want more from me [love] when the first time I met you it was purely sexual [lust]. First impressions paint a thousand words, so with that being said what you did with me on the first night you probably did to someone else. A man needs to know that it takes more that liquor and lust to get into a woman’s pants if this is the woman he intends to be with. So it’s not an issue of me treating you like a whore, but of me reacting to what you’ve given me.
Good girls don’t give it up fast
Bad girls shouldn’t give it up fast
Most times, when a guy doesn’t know you, his attraction is only physical. Once you give that away, you most likely forfeit all impetus for him to keep you around; intellectually at least. Attraction is a mind game and guys are very fickle. If you want to preserve your dignity in the long run don’t —— on equal ground; don’t lay all the cards on the table in one go, always keep him guessing, always keep him wanting more. This doesn’t mean play hard to get, it means treat yourself with some measure of dignity. Granted, whores have a place in society, but it’s not a roll every girl should fill.